Of Life, Death and Grief

My set in the University lost a rare gem recently.  She was a brilliant and an accomplished Medical Doctor, a dutiful mother and wife, a lover of humanity, and a dependable friend.  She was beautiful in and out, and I am glad to ascertain that she gave her life to Christ ever before she breathed her last on earth.  To God be the glory!  Two families that are close to us also lost their fathers not long ago.  Then, a couple of people asked us for prayers and encouragement owing to the death of people that were close to them.  No doubt, these deaths are huge and very painful!   May the souls of the departed find peace and rest in the Lord, and may He grant the bereaved the fortitude to bear their losses in Jesus name.  Amen.

At a time like this, it is instructive for us, to be there for one another.  Therefore, I am happy to dedicate this piece to those who are mourning at this time and in addition, I wish to strengthen them with the following points pertaining to life, death and grief.  They are:

1.  Life, death and grief are key components of life

The wise King Solomon made allusion to this point in Ecclesiastes 3:1-2, 4 when he said:  ”To everything there is a season… 2. A time to be born, And a time to die…4.  … A time to mourn, And a time to dance”.  Let us therefore get used to the idea that life, death and grief, are key components of living, which we can never wish away.

2.  God values the presence of the deceased more than we do

It is often said that God withdraws those that he fancies most to Himself, and the Psalmist confirmed this position in Psalm 116:15 as follows:  ”Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of the saints”.  If you are currently grieving, I encourage you, based on the word of God above and others in the bible, to loosen up and rejoice greatly, since the presence of your beloved is thrilling God at this point in time.  And you can be sure that He will take an excellent care of him or her in Jesus name.  Amen.

3.  Death is beneficial in the long run

The legendary Apostle Paul confirmed this view in Philippians 1:21 this way: ”…For to me, to live is Christ, and to die is gain”.   Meanwhile, the foremost benefit of death is in being able to attain heaven which is a fantastic place to be hereafter (Revelation 7:15-17).  However, reaching it is strongly linked to being born again (John 3:3).  Was your loved one born again while alive? If your answer is yes then, you have every reason to be joyous as he or she is certainly enjoying the comfort of heaven right now.  And this is an extraordinary achievement, which you should be proud of!

At this point, let me add that it is okay for us to grief, since grief is the price we have to pay for the love we have for departed souls.  But we shouldn’t do it as if we are hopeless (1Thessalonians 4:13).  We are definitely not!  In fact, our hope is that we shall be re-united with the departed someday (1Thessalonians 4:16-17) in Jesus name.  Amen.  Therefore, please do away with your grief as quickly as possible, and start celebrating the life and time of the departed.  But while doing so, please remember to give thanks to God since this step makes Him very happy (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

Finally, let us use this opportunity to reassess our current individual position in Jesus Christ.   Are you okay with Him? Are you born again? If you are, brilliant!  That means you will make heaven one day, if you don’t deviate.  But if you are not then, this is a great opportunity for you to do the right thing.  That is, ask Jesus Christ to come into your life and take over as your personal Lord and Saviour and He will (John 6:37).  And if you are not very sure of the current state of your salvation then, please consider rededicating your life to Him without delay. May the good Lord comfort and uphold you continually and may He rain his manifold blessings upon you all the days of your life in Jesus name.  Amen.

Jesus is Lord!

(c) Adedayo Stoney Adegbulu, 2009

The Sun Will Shine Again

My Secondary School, Government College, Ibadan, Nigeria, lost an old boy recently. He was a lovely, jovial, friendly, and cerebral young man.  He will be buried shortly, and sorely missed by all and sundry!

A couple of people known to me, also lost their loved ones in recent times, and today I will like to identify with them in obedience to the instruction of Apostle Paul in Romans 12:15 i.e., “Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep’’.

If you are one of those rejoicing at the moment, I join you to give thanks to God Almighty. May your joy not be cruelly truncated in Jesus name. Amen. But if you are mourning the loss of a loved one, please accept my heartfelt condolences.

Certainly this period cannot be fun for you, and you must be very low in the spirit right now. Have you questioned God, and made up your mind to part ways with Him, for ‘letting you down? If you have, I humbly ask you to hold your peace, and pay attention to me at this moment! Please bear it in mind that although grief is the price we have to pay for love, we must never allow it to extinguish our trust in God.

Friend, please permit me to encourage you with the following bible passages at this point in time.

1. “To everything there is a season…A time to be born, And a time to die…A time to mourn, And a time to dance’’ (Ecclesiastes 3:1-2, 4).

The wise King Solomon said all above at a point in his life, and it will help you a great deal if you accept the reality that, life death and grief are key components of living, which we cannot wish away.

2. “Man’s days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he cannot exceed’’ (Job 14:5).

God determined the life span of your beloved just like every other person’s, and there is nothing anyone could have done to alter it. His or her journey has ended, and the time to rest has come; this should be your joy!

3. “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of the saints’’ (Psalm 116:15).

If God is celebrating the home coming of your beloved right now, then you shouldn’t mourn endlessly. Remember that at the appropriate time, he or she will rise up again, and be united with you in Christ (1Thessalonians 4:16-17). This should be your joy as well!

Friend, I urge you to wipe away your tears as quickly as possible, brace yourself up, and move on with your life gracefully. Please, I am not in any way suggesting that complying with my advice will be easy, but I am persuaded that it is possible (Matthew 19:26).

And perhaps you haven’t given your life to Jesus Christ i.e., you are not born-again yet, then you need to sort this out unfailing right now so as to finish well in life, and attain heaven when your race on earth has effectively ended (John 3:3). May your Sun shine once more, and may your joy be fully re-ignited before long, in Jesus name. Amen.

Jesus is Lord!

Dr Adedayo Stoney Adegbulu.

Dr Stoney is the author of About God! Undeniable Facts & Testimonies