Today, I am writing to encourage parents who are currently finding it rather difficult to nurture their children properly. If you are one of them, I have good news for you; you can still do well as a parent (Matthew 19:26). Please don’t give up!

However, you must be ready to observe the following protocols among others first:

1.   You Must Make Time for Your Children

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says: “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house…’’.  This passage shows you are expected to make time for your children!

Friend, even if you provide all things for your children, but you fail to make time for them, they might conclude that you care more about yourself, your job, hobby, friends, etc., than you care about them, and this can discourage them.

2.  You Must Communicate Very Well with Your Children

This position is verified in James 1:19 as follows: “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;’’

If your children feel you will snap at them and be judgmental, they won’t convey their feelings to you. Instead, they will convey them to outsiders who might take advantage of them, misadvise them, and ultimately damage them.

3.  You Must Offer Your Children Caring Discipline and Praise

Colossians 3:21 supports this view thus: “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.’’ Mothers should not provoke their children as well!

Please make sure that your children’s overriding interest is topmost on your mind whenever you discipline them. Besides, praise them regularly to boost their confidence and strengthen their character.

4.  You Must Love, Value, and Submit to you Spouse

As a husband, you must love and value your wife, while as a wife, you must submit to your husband (Ephesians 5:22-33).  When you do this, know that you are laying a solid foundation for your children.  They in turn will emulate you, and lay same foundation for their own children when the time is ripe.  By this, you will ensure peace and stability in your lineage.

5.  You Must Love God, and Help Your Children to Do Same

Deuteronomy 6:5 corroborates this view like this: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.”

Parents who love God, and help their children to do same, will give them the best legacy possible; a close relationship with God!

Friend, please abide by the protocols enumerated above from now on, and before long, you will see yourself doing well as a parent, in Jesus name. Amen.

Jesus is Lord!

Dr Adedayo Stoney Adegbulu