I am writing today, to encourage parents who are presently finding it difficult to nurture their children properly. If you are one of them, I have good news for you; you can still do well as a parent (Matthew 19:26). Please don’t give up!
However, you must be ready to observe the following protocols, among others, first:
1. You Must Always Make Time for Your Children
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 highlights this position as follows: “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house…’’.
The passage above encourages people to make time for their children. And without doing this, it is practically impossible for them to sit in their house, and teach, talk to, or do anything reasonable for their children.
Friend, even if you provide all things for your children, but, you fail to make time for them, they might conclude that you care more about yourself, your job, your hobby, your friends, etc. than about them, and this can discourage them grossly.
2. You Must Communicate Calmly with Your Children
This position is supported by James 1:19 like this: “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;’’
If your children feel you will snap at them, and be judgmental, they won’t convey their feelings to you. Instead, they will convey them to outsiders who might then take advantage of them, control them, misadvise them, and eventually damage them.
3. You Must Offer Your Children Caring Discipline and Praise
Colossians 3:21 endorses this point in this way: “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.’’
Mothers should not provoke their children as well!
Please make sure your children’s overriding interest is topmost on your mind when you discipline them. Besides, set aside time to praise them whenever they do well, so as to encourage them, boost their morale, and strengthen their character.
4. You Must Love, Value, and Submit to your Spouse
As a husband, you must love and value your wife, while as a wife, you must submit to your husband (Ephesians 5:22-33). When you do this, know that you are laying a solid foundation for your children. They, in turn, will emulate you and lay the same foundation for their own children, thereby, ensuring peace and stability in your lineage.
5. You Must Love God, and Help Your Children to Do the Same
Deuteronomy 6:5 confirms this view along these lines: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.”
Parents who love God, and help their children to do the same, will give them the best legacy possible, i.e., a close relationship with God!
Friend, please abide by the protocols listed above among others from now on, and before long, you will see yourself doing well as a parent, and raising your children to be successful in life, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Jesus is Lord!
Dr Adedayo Stoney Adegbulu
Medical Practitioner, Author, and Speaker